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I do not fully remember when or why I came up with this topic. It just popped into my head one fatefull day and it sounded like a good idea to write a post about it. I often mention romance in my review, so today I want to focus on what I like romance. Those aspects that make me say it’s a good romance and that mke it more likely I’ll enjoy the romance and the book. They will include tropes, but also the way a romance developes, basically any aspect of a romance that I like or what I like to see in books. These are often the things I will mention in my reviews as well.
What aspects do I like to see in a romance book?
- How I like them as a couple. For me the romance and whether I like it is often more about the couple and how they are together than the individual characters, although great characters often contribute to a great romance, in general it’s about the couple for me and how they are together. Two characters I don’t like can still make a good couple or romance even if I do not like them. Two great characters can still leave me feeling meh about the romance.
- Friends to Lovers. The friend to lovers trope is probably my favourite romance trope ever. It just works for me and knowing a romance is a friends to lovers romance already makes me both more likely to read the book and more likely to enjoy the book. My own relationship started as friends, before we became a couple and I think that’s why I like this trope so much. I can relate to it and it feel realistic to me. I also love that transition period between friends who want to be more till they finally get there and break that line to become a couple. I like that feeling of being close, but wanting to be closer. The fear of losing your friend if it doesn’t work out, but also the stable basis you already have for a relationship as you already know each other thanks to being friends.
- Couple really knows each other. This is probably one of the reasons I like friends to lovers romances so much, but it can also stand as a seperate point. I like it when the couple really knows each other, those toughtfull gestures or presents that might seem meaningless, but when you think deeper, realize they are the best as the present fits the receiver. There is this scene in Summer Haikus where Masa gives Isa pens as a present as he knows she is a planner and loves colour coding everything in her planner and she doesn’t have enough pens to colour code everything. It’s one of my favourite scenes of the whole book because of that thoughtfull gesture and how it illustrates how well they know each other.
- Slow Building Romance. I love a good slow building romance. They can be so frustrating, but so good at the same time. I love waiting for the couple to get together, them slow getting closer and closer and waiting for the moment they finally get together. Reading something in every little gesture. Gah slow building romances are the best. Although there has to be enough progression of the couple getting closer in each book/chapter else it goes into frustrating territory. I want to wait on them getting together, but know they will get there and seeing things change over the course of the series/ book. There are some authors who manage the art of a good slow building romance really well and can make me wait for books till the couple get’s together and I love every second of it. And the wait makes it all the sweeter when they finally do get together.
- Second Chance. Another romance trope I love is the second chance one, although there is more risk with this one, as they can be done good and not so good in my opinion. I like them because of how characters already have a past together and know each other and it’s fun to see them reconnect. Or have them work out issues that drove them apart in the first palce. One things I don’t like though it when there is too much hate between them, there has to be positive feelings, maybe some sadness, but not too much negativity else it doesn’t work for me.
- Realistic. I like romances that feel realistic to me. Some romances feel very unrealistic and that can take me out of the story and romance. This often has to do with the way characters act, feel or what they say. Like the insta love for example, it’s just so unrealistic to me. I am okay with insta lust though, just not with them delcaring their love for each other the moment they meet. Or marry too fast or change their mind too fast or have obstacles be removed very suddenly. Things have to progress realistically or at least realistic enough.
- Communication. I want the couple to communicate about things or talk about things. They dont have to talk about everything, but overal I like romances more when it’s obvious the couple can and will talk with each other. There are romances where the couple just have sex or they miscommunicate, don’t talk about things, assume they know how the other feels without ever asking. This can frustrate me to no end and when a couple is willing to talk about things I like that.
- Honesty. I absolutely hate people who lie, omit important information or cheat. I want a couple to be honest. Sure you might not tell the other eveyrthing, that’s okay, but please don’t lie about important topics. Lies always come back to bite them in the end and I feel like a good relationship or romance is build on honesty. Same with cheating, if you want to fuck someone else, please break up with your current partner first. It sometimes feels like there aren’t enough romances where the couple is honest with each other and thus when I read a romance book were that is the case that automaticaly makes me like the romance more.
- Good for each other. I want the couple to be good for each other. Have them be aware of the other their needs, care for the other and make have them be a better person for being together. I want them to be there for each other. I like it when they make the other a better person for being together and are there to help them through hardship and fun times. I want to feel that the romance and being a couple is good for both of them.
- Chemistry. I want to be able to feel the chemistry between the couple. I have read quite some romances that leave me cold, where I don’t feel the chemistry or love between the couple. When I feel the chemsitry between them I like the romance much more.
A good romance doens’t need to have all of these aspects, but the more of these aspects a romance has the higher the chances I will enjoy the romance.