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Today I want to talk about commenting and in specific about commenting back. Commenting Back is when you visit the blog of someone who commented on your and leave a comment on their blog in return. Once upon a time I came across bloggers commenting back and decided to join.
I know quite some bloggers comment back and also quite some who don’t and while I do comment back I can also understand why others choose not to. So I wanted to delve into my reasons for commenting back, the difficulties of commenting back, alternatives to commenting back and ofcourse I would like to know if you comment back and why!
Why do I comment back?
My main reasons for commenting is that I see it as a thank you to the blogger who left me a comment, it fosters a sense of community and it helps me discover new blogs. I love receiving comments and every comment makes me happy, so I want to spread the love back in return.
When I sarted blogging I was one of those bloggers who never commented on other blogs and while I did respond sometimes when someone commented on my blog I didn’t reply to every comment and I certainly didn’t check out their blog. Sometimes I did check out their blog, but I hardly ever left a comment. I didn’t visit other blogs a lot and I thought I could just write interesting content here on my blog and the visitors would come eventually. Well after more then a year of working with that philosphy I had very little comments on my posts and I didn’t feel like I was part of the community. Guess what: I wasn’t! While I was blogging, I wasn’t being social and until I started commenting on other blogs I never realized what I missed. After seeing the bloggers commenting back button on a few sites I decided to check it out and join. I don’t think you have to join that site or add the button to your blog, but for me it helped have that concrete proof that I was doing this. Since then I made the commitment to comment back. And having the button on my site is proof of this commitment and as I display it on my blog it feels like a promise to those who visit and comment. Ever after I joined bloggers commenting back I became more serious about commenting back. I also started commenting more in general and I am glad I did as commenting makes me feel like part of the book blogging community and I met some great bloggers who feel like friends to me.
I like commenting back, it gives me a good feeling and I think it’s nice to reciprocate leaving a comment. Someone leaves a comment on my blog and I go visit their blog to leave a comment on theirs. It’s saying thank you by visiting their blog and taking the time to read and comment on their post. I think it’s nice and I love commenting back. It also feels like I am connecting with other bloggers by commenting back. I have discovered some awesome blogs thanks to commenting back, which I might not have discovered otherwise. It also forces me to look past my initial impression of a blog and find a post I like, read it and comment. I also love it when someone comments back on my blog and I am more tempted to visit their blog again or see if they replied to my comment. Commenting back feels like a way to connect me to the blogging community and to those who took time to leave a comment on my blog. So in general I think commenting back is a good thing.
Disadvantages/difficulties of commenting back
While I like commenting back I also think it has some difficulties or disadvantages and I can understand why some people don’t comment back and why other’s don’t always comment back.
So here are some disadvantages/difficulties about commenting back:
- Obligation. One of the things about my commitment to comment back is that I feel like I have to comment back on every comment, except for when that comment is a comment back itself. Sometimes I find that obligation a bit restricting. Sometimes I don’t want to or don’t have time to comment back and it can feel bad to force myself to comment back in some cases. So yeah sometimes it feels like an obligation and that isn’t always a good thing. Most of the time I don’t mind though.
- It takes time. Commenting back takes time and I can understand how not every blogger has time to comment back, espcially when I had a busy week it can be really challenging to keep up with commenting back. Also recently I have had some posts with quite some comments and commenting back takes so much time I skip my normal commenting just so I am able to comment back on the blogs of those who left me a comment.
- Is it really about their blog or about commenting back? Sometimes I wonder if the comment is still about their blog or post or more from my desire to comment back. Is it still about them or more about me? I have commented back on some blogs with which I feel no connection and wouldn’t comment on if it wasn’t for my policy to comment back. I feel like because I made the promise to comment back I have to comment back on every comment and I feel bad about myself when I don’t.
- Don’t know what to comment. Somedays I am in a commenting mood and I know what to say or comment on almost every post I read, but there are also days when I am in a bad mood and just can’t think of anything to say. I really have to force myself to come up comments on thsoe days. And I can imagine that it might be difficult sometimes to come up with somethign to say, either because you aren’t in a commenting mood, don’t see a post that sounds interesting or you don’t have a connection with the blog.
Alternatives to commenting back
If you don’t want to comment back there are ofcourse other ways to show your gratitude to a bloggers for commenting on your blog. I listed a few alternatives below, although I call them alternatives ofcourse you can also do these next to commenting back.
- Replying. If someone comments on your blog one of the easiest ways to show your gratitude is to reply to their comment. I think replying to comments is very important as it shows the commentor that you have read their comment and appreciate it, while also having an opportunity to respond on their comment and maybe even keep the conversation going. I do this next to commenting back, but I can also see how some bloggers would choose either for commenting back or for replying.
- Sharing is caring! I have heard some bloggers mention that instead of commenting back they would share a post of that blogger on social media. I wish I did this more often as it’s such a nice way to say thanks without having to comment. It also helps spread the word about a post to a broader audience, which is really valueable as well and open up the possibility of bringing more/new visitors to your blog and post. I would love to do this more often myself.
- Liking their blog or post. You can also like someone’s blog or post on any of the social media platforms you are following. Likes can be really valuable, especially now that it’s so difficult for your posts to get seen on facebook or on bloglovin where you can see the activity of your friends and which posts they like.